revolutions: A heart shape drawn in snow. (heart in the snow)
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1. I am chronically ill; I have CFS/fibro which results in constant epic exhaustion, mobility issues, and a really weirdly messed-up immune system. I also have huge, major, epic sleep issues which are probably connected to the same thing. Because of that, I'm not able to keep a "proper" job right now; I do two/three days a week at the museum instead and I'm studying via correspondence course. I would really like to be able to hold down a "normal" job again someday, because I honestly miss it, but I'm not holding my breath right now.

I would prefer people not try to tell me about "cures" that worked brilliantly for their friend's cousin's aunt, especially if these cures involve paying a large amount of money for something which is not so far backed up by reputable medical studies. CFS is a weird and complicated and not-well-understood thing, and what works for one person doesn't necessarily have much chance of working for another. Tips on pain relief and coping strategies are welcome; "eat only pond slime and slugs and you'll get better!" not so much. I understand that people mean only the best with this, but having tried half a dozen of these things for no result... I really can't go through that again.

2. I consider myself a feminist. I am not keen on misogyny. I am also not keen on stereotypical gender roles, or the idea that women must always be one way and men always another way. Please don't assume I'm automatically in agreement with the whole "women are delicate flowers who just want marriage and children because they're genetically programmed that way, whereas men dun like romance because they're genetically programmed to want to have sex with lots of hot chicks!" concept, because it's one of the few things that makes me RAGE on many different levels. (Not to say there aren't people out there who fit into those stereotypical roles. If you're a woman and marriage/babies/flowers are your thing, awesome. Just don't generalise that to everyone else.)

[Edited to add that also, this "men = A and women = B" mindset is also kind of fail in its complete non-acknowledgement of those people who do not consider themselves to be in either the "men" or "women" category. Really, it is just epicfail on many many levels. MANY.]

3. I'm in the process of learning about intersectionality and privilege and all that fun stuff. I will fuck up at times. It is okay to tell me when I'm fucking up, although of course it is not anybody's job to do that.

4. I'm female-identified, and queer. For the moment I've given up trying to pin down my sexuality beyond "queer".

5. I identify as "somewhat plural", meaning that I experience myself as having more than one person in my head. This has been so since childhood and may well be the result of unpleasant experiences back then, but I don't fit the criteria for DID/NPD/DDNOS beyond that; it's just an personal-experience-and-identity thing. I don't tend to talk about it very much here, because a) it's a personal thing and not something I discuss much in public, and b) I worry about people assuming I'm either some internet drama whore, or else I'm a tragic broken Sybil figure. I'm not, and I function pretty well - I don't lose time, I communicate with my headmate perfectly well, and I genuinely like having her around - and I do not remotely enjoy internet drama when it involves me, thankyou very much. I will answer questions about it on request, but I probably won't ever talk about my headmate very much on this journal. I was actually very much in two minds (hahaha) about whether to mention this at all, but I've noticed that there seems to be rather more positivity and awareness on Dreamwidth about this sort of thing than there was on LJ, so... er. There you go. Outing myself.

I am now fretting that everybody is just going to go "whatever, freakshow. DE-ADD!" when they read this. Heh.

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Date: 2009-06-05 01:50 pm (UTC)
jackluminous: (batman hearts goat)
From: [personal profile] jackluminous
This = a good idea. I might make my own "things you should know" post here, since I do plan to Make New Friends and all that.

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Date: 2009-06-05 02:23 pm (UTC)
onceamy: Generic rainbow, no real context. (Rainbow-3)
From: [personal profile] onceamy
I agree with everything here, so don't worry, but I am intensely curious as to what spurred this little info post on!

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Date: 2009-06-05 02:23 pm (UTC)
nightmareink: chick who looks like Jo (Personal - Johanna)
From: [personal profile] nightmareink
Well, you aren't going to scare me off. ;)

I should also do something like this, though I am afraid that would scare off people myself.


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Date: 2009-06-05 03:42 pm (UTC)
mu: (Default)
From: [personal profile] mu
I like learning more about people, and I especially like getting to know interesting people like you. I don't think there is one single person in the universe who has all their shit together, you know? :) *hugs*

would you eat pond slime and slugs? I don't know if I could ever bring myself to try them... oooh.

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Date: 2009-06-05 04:03 pm (UTC)
fascination: (Crocheted necklace.)
From: [personal profile] fascination
You know, that's a good idea. :)

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Date: 2009-06-05 04:22 pm (UTC)
lilystarlight: (ruby slippers)
From: [personal profile] lilystarlight
Now I want to do something similar to this.

Honestly, I don't find there to be anything too terribly strange about anything you've said, and it's nice to know my dreamwidth friends a little better. :)

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Date: 2009-06-05 05:36 pm (UTC)
phoebesmum: (Default)
From: [personal profile] phoebesmum
This is the meme I don't know how to do because I'm so boring. I should just make stuff up. It's the internets, after all!

Meh, I have what was at one time amusing called TAT (Tired All the Time), and that's quite bad enough. You have my sympathies.

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Date: 2009-06-05 10:39 pm (UTC)
From: [personal profile] amethystfirefly
Oooh. I might steal this idea. I've been trying to get up the courage to find new friends, but with the amount of epic fail my life is at the moment, I haven't had a chance. But this'd be a step in the direction, methinks.
Edited Date: 2009-06-05 10:40 pm (UTC)

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Date: 2009-06-05 11:28 pm (UTC)
forodwaith: (feminist)
From: [personal profile] forodwaith
Re #2: that evo-psych bullshit gets on my last nerve too.

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Date: 2009-06-08 11:41 pm (UTC)
damanique: (Default)
From: [personal profile] damanique
Actually you sound just about pretty awesome and interesting. :D

Question about #4 though - I previously always thought 'queer' = gay, but more recently I've seen 'queer' being used to describe either gay or bisexual. Which is which?

Regarding #5, I can typically see time as a colored, 3-dimensional shape in my head. Brains can be pretty funny and/or awesome that way.

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Date: 2009-06-09 03:02 pm (UTC)
naive: (Default)
From: [personal profile] naive
I'm sure you've already seen it, but if you haven't, you should absolutely look into The Spoon Theory. And just in case you think I am: I'm not asking you to eat pond slime and slugs to get better, promise. is one of the better sites I know. (I suffer from horrible migraines from time to time, and have met a lot of ignorance about it even from my closest friends.)

I love the concept of this meme, by the way!

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Date: 2009-06-09 03:41 pm (UTC)
naive: (Default)
From: [personal profile] naive
Oh, ick. And here I was thinking no one'd ever heard of it! I've never met anyone who has, so I'm surprised that people have taken so much to it. Where do you live? USA?

And of course you're right. I've only ever had diseases that rule out both my body and my head at once, so it hadn't even strafed my mind that it might not fit at all for someone. Sometimes I live inside a tiny bubble and spend my time being ignorant, heh.

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Date: 2009-06-10 08:42 pm (UTC)
naive: (Default)
From: [personal profile] naive
Probably. Norway's usually far, far behind the US and the UK. :Þ

Oh, I didn't think you were. I was just yelling at myself out loud for something I do too much - I often don't think through how different people are, even though I know it so well. It annoys me.


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